Crushing the Crush!

Is it silly to say you have a crush on someone?  Especially somone famous?  I don't know.  I thought maybe it would be a good idea being that I am in the same business, but pish posh I guess I was wrong. 


There is a certain someone who shall remain nameless, ok let's be real there are certain someones that shall remain nameless that I have had a huge crush on.  I have also had the oppurtunity to meet and once in a while make out with said crush.  However, what do I have left.  Once the crush is revealed what's left.

Man woman crush:  Men seem to think that when you tell them your feeling them you want to sleep with them.  Some would say the challenge has been taken away.  How do you tell someone whe get's ass thrown at them on a daily basis that well... you just want to get to know them.  Could it be crusher is only blinded by the limelight of the crushee and the crushee can't trust the crusher as far as they can be thrown?

What's worse is when you tell the guy and he's like "Thanks" ugghhhhh..... that's almost as bad as I'm flattered, hell I think it's worse... just take my heart and eat it right in front of me would you.

Although a drunken mess when I said it, my heart still hurt and that was a wound that lasted well into sobriety.  I even had one crush tell me, "wow that's kind of grade school isnt it"?  Ouch, hurt my feelings much.

You know what, maybe the problem is me.  Maybe I have too many crushes, but what good is a girl with out a crush.  Not much I think but that's just me.

What to do? What to do?

Wow, I have so many questions, has anyone ever "won" their crush?  Are they still with them now?  Are crushes just for school girls?  Maybe so, but my heart doesn't agree.

A Memo for the Council of Mandom!

Ok can someone please tell me when this memo of laundry list questions was sent out.  Do men have some sort of book they read from,  to ask the same damn questions to women.  It drives me crazy!  So what do you do?  Where do you work?  How come your not married?  When was your last relationship?  Um hello,  is this an interview.  Or are you just asking because you really want me to know these things about you?  Please understand.  When your just being real.  Everything comes out in the wash.  You don't have to ask, if your vibin, the shit just comes out!

Will someone please forward me the memo.  I think it needs to be updated!  Times have changed people have changed.  Not everyone is the same nor do they need to be approached that way.  And to the fellas that think they are deep, trust me your not.  If you have gotten to the point where you are so busy listening to yourself talk.  That's a problem and most of us are sitting there stairing at you like what the HELL are you talking about.  All I said was please pass the butter!

Better yet here's a new memo:

To: Men
From: Me (and or women who feel me)
Re: Being real, and the way you approach a lady

To Whom It May Concern:

Please understand that when speaking to a woman, you can not approach each woman the same way.  Yes we know that if you have used that approach, and 9 times out of 10 it has worked then why change.  Well I guess that means you get what you ask for. 

However, the one time you change your approach, you might find yourself in a new found territory, that really intrigues you.   You might actually find the woman you say you really want, instead of the crazy, needy, young acting, immature women you continuosly use the 9 times out of 10 lines with.

How bout this, if you get past the initial meeting, try listening to the woman and feel her out, see what she has to say, and ask her questions regarding actual statements she has made. 

Also, if there are signs that the woman is crazy, (which there always are) you may want to go running for the hills.  Because other women really don't want to hear about your crazy baby momma drama.  And how all of sudden out of the clear blue sky this woman is stalking you and calling and emailing the women you date, and saying your still together when your not.  We just don't!

Sincerely,

Me!

After hearing this time and time again from friends men included, because don't get it twisted (WE WOMEN CAN BE JUST AS BAD).  You know the women who take a good guy and break him down so bad he's no good to any body anymore. 

I don't speak for all women I am just making and observation, However, I have heard too many women including myself speak about how crazy this is.  Dating, Marriage, wooing, it's not rocket science, but if your just looking to kick it or just sex and nothing more just say so.  So no one's time is wasted.  JUST SAY SO!  Life is not complicated people are.

Please burn that memo and have the council of Mandom make an updated one!  One that works for this century.

Thanks for listening